posted Jan 1, 2010 11:56 PM by Steve Heneghan
It's at this time of year when, as well as setting goals or "New Year Resolutions" in all aspects of our life and that might involve some detailed planning of how we will achieve that goal. So, for example we might decide to move house, when ? what has to happen first ? how much will that cost ? these things have to be planned, same for holidays, cars, education, etc....
So what are we planning in terms if improving ourselves ? our personal development or personal growth ?
What are we going to develop this year ? presentation skills ? Communication skills ? Coaching, NLP, Hypnosis....whatever it might be we need to sit down and work out how much of our time that will take and when we can schedule that in, and how much financial investment and budget for that.
Having done that, one observation to make is; is the proportion correct ? are you planning to invest a proportional amount of time, money and energy into your personal development as in to...your car, your house, your holidays, your clothes.....
Happy New Year ! |
posted Nov 10, 2009 10:22 AM by Steve Heneghan
Hi
on the subject of `Commitment`
I find asking the question - `On a scale of 1-10 with `10` being high and `1` being low commitment to your goal - Where would you say you were ?-
when coachee responds if lower than 9/10 i ask
`What stops that commitment from being higher?`
Also it is a good idea to check the same scale on confidence - as this may affect commitment
We call this `Commitment & Ranking` and it seems to help coachee understand their commitment issues more clearly
Helen Reuben
`Purple Tree` Effective Coaching, Training, Coach Training & Therapy |
posted Nov 10, 2009 10:19 AM by Steve Heneghan
Duh!! Can't figure out how to reply on the blog so it's email to the rescue! Whenever I encounter a lapse in commitment on the part of a coachee it signals to me that it's time to return from encouraging action to inviting exploration. In my experience what that exploration tends to reveal (if you forgive the over-simplification in the interests of brevity) is:- EITHER - At this time they are MORE COMMITTED to maintaining a limiting belief and the fear that underpins it. In this instance I do feel it is my responsibility as their coach to help them dismantle the limitation and move beyond it...so that action can be resumed. OR - At this time, within the confines of their time and energy resources they've made a informed decision to be MORE COMMITTED to other projects, decisions, and/or external pressures. In this instance I see it as my responsibility as their coach to respect their 'adult' decision and help them own and acknowledge the consequences of this decision to any hopes and expectations they have of the coaching process. Sadly my commitment to my job with Relate on Thursday evenings prevents me from joining the meeting! Sure it'll be great! Pam :-)
AKUTAQ Coaching Services
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posted Nov 10, 2009 10:11 AM by Steve Heneghan
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Hia!
Suzi Sharples here
Sorry I cannot make your Thursdays as I am committed elsewhere that day of the week.
Still love to hear about what you are doing and read your missives with interest.
Thoughts about commitment.
‘Nailing’ the client – surely that is about how much they value the activity - ie in the hierarchy of values where does the activity come? Are they truly happy with that hierarchy and the future outcomes of staying with that hierarchy? Do they attract distractions to what they want in life. What signals are they sending out to attract what they do and don’t want in life? Level of personal power is also important.
So exploring the why of distractions can be as important as looking at the 4th quadrant of Cartesian Coordinates – Doing something unimportant and non urgent holds a mine of important values that may not have been uncovered. |
posted Nov 9, 2009 2:11 PM by Steve Heneghan
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I find that one of the most challenging aspects of change, yours or others, is the commitment stage. We can all work on our goals and outcomes but there comes a point when we have to take action and to be committed to that action - i.e. DO IT !!
One way to approach the commitment phase is to consider the aspects of the outcome or goal in tems of what you will HAVE, what you will DO when you have it and who you will BE when you do that.
HAVE - DO - BE
Sometimes when setting goals we stop at the Have, I will "have" a new job, car, relationship, etc". Taking a little extra time to imagine and visualise what you will do differently when you have that goal will help you understand what you are really seeking...then take the further step and really explore who you will be...really visualise it, what will you look like, what will others see, what will you hear...from yourself and others...and of course...how will you feel, both physically and emotionally. Go there in your imagination, really step into that "new you" and experience the person, make it your new movie of your future. NOW that is your future and everything else, the things that you want to HAVE and the things that you want to DO, are merely props that will show up on your journey to BE your new you. Everything will fall under the gravitational pull of the future you.
Whatever you can do or think you can do, begin it, boldness has genius, power and magic in it...beging it NOW (Goethe) |
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